"All the world's a stage
and the stage is a classroom."
and the stage is a classroom."
While talking on the phone today I realized that being married has taught me many things. Not only have I learned more about being a wife, but I have gained some of Michael's great knowledge. He is a smart guy, after all!
As I talked to the person on the other side of the line I realized that there are two things that I have learned this last year from Michael which have helped me a lot. They have helped me prioritize and not get down on myself when things don't go the way I want them to. So, yes, this world is a classroom - we are all constantly learning about life.
Things I have learned lately-
Lower your expectations - it keeps you from being disappointed
I get disappointed so often by what other people do or don't do. In my mind everyone should think or act like me - wrong! There have been many instances in which I have not been happy with the way things turned out because I thought that someone would live up to my ideal. I have learned that I need to keep my expectations really low. Expect the very least from someone (within reason, of course). That way, if they exceed your expectations you will be really surprised and happy. This thought crosses my mind several times during the week and it has helped me deal with some hard situations.
It is better to do a few things right than to do many things and to do them poorly
I lean towards a Type A personality at times. I like doing things right. I like my house to be clean. I like lists. I like order. But there comes a time in life when I realized I can't do everything I want to do. There is simply too much to do. Too many people to help. Too many activities or things to be involved with. I get so overwhelmed by my desire to do lots of things and to do them all right! I simply cannot do it. I have resolved myself to pick a few things that I enjoy doing or that God has put on my heart. I do them and put in effort to do those few things right. It does me no good to do a million things if I can't even do one right.
There it is...lessons I have learned. I'm sure there will be more that I'll learn during this next week. Hmmm....I wonder if any of you have lessons you've learned. I know some of you, dear readers, are a little more advanced in years than I am. What have you learned in life? And you, my peers, what have you learned?
I'd love to hear from you! Click on the "comment" link below and tell me what you think!
Happy Tuesday!
4 comments:
Hey babe!
Thanks for the kind words. I have learned a lot from you too!! There are still a lot of things that you can do that I cant though, like move your ears :-)
Love you Always
Michael
That's cool Ann. Life is a learning experience!
Kariss
Ann,
After almost 20 years of marriage - and almost ending in divorce at the 15 year mark - one of the things I learned in the middle of the miracle God did in my marriage is that I am not invited to be part of Richard's relationship with God. I was not aware at how controlling and concerned I was about Richard's walk with God - and in the process of this - my walk with God was not what it should have been! I am in the process of writing a book about our experiences...and this one experience will take up a big part of the book....I am sure!
Well, Bella, another great note you wrote! Your comments are truly encouraging
...I still tend to be a perfectionist and have everything in order and all done...I want to do so many things all the time and then I get so tired and sad when I realize that my initial plans didn't work accordingly...but, having lived in the Caribbean for almost two years has really been good for me:) The Lord has blessed me and also stretched me through this experience tremendously in so many aspects, and He has also taught me a little about being flexible...I still like to be orderly and neat, but I have had to let myself be more adjusting to my surroundings and see the important needs...your focus changes this way...from yourself more towards on the Lord ...not that my focus was not on the Lord before...but now I have a better perspective on things...I hope:)
Thank you for being such a great example to me!:)
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